Dear Katrin, you’ve been a clinical sexologist with your practice in Hamburg for many years. Additionally, you’ve launched a highly successful podcast and published two books on the topic. How do you unwind at the end of the day?

When I get home, the first thing I do is change out of my work clothes so I can just be myself. For me, that means feeling feminine, sexy, and completely at ease—ready to relax. In the evenings, I want to leave behind the professional role I play in my practice. Since I spend all day interacting with people and often work late, I truly appreciate the quiet at home. I don’t feel the need to talk much and enjoy letting the day slip away. Reading in the evening is my favourite way to unwind; it allows me to create vivid images in my mind while being enveloped in peaceful silence.

Isn’t it often part of your advice to clients that relaxation should come before a passionate sex life?

Exactly. When people are relaxed, their whole perception shifts. In a relaxed state, you’re more inclined to linger, and your senses become more open and responsive. Sexuality goes far beyond just the physical—it’s about feeling noticed, desired, and loved. Just like me after a long workday, everyone’s sense of well-being is often tied to what they’re wearing. It’s not just about the fit of the clothes; it’s also about how the fabrics feel against the skin. Feeling good in the right outfit creates a visible energy that others can sense. How you dress, walk, and carry yourself all influence the way others perceive you.
Only when you feel truly comfortable can you be your authentic self, which is when your natural, sexy charisma shines through. I often ask my clients, “What do you wear at home?” The answer is usually, “Oh, just joggers.” However, in a partnership or marriage, the art of seduction should never be forgotten.

Can the sexual attraction between two people be influenced to a certain extent? What controllable factors do you believe can promote desire and that tingling feeling in the stomach?

Absolutely. It starts with making yourself attractive by first feeling attractive within yourself. Ask yourself: How do you feel in your own body? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Strive to achieve that feeling, and treat yourself to the best possible body experience. That’s a crucial first step.
Equally important is making your partner feel appreciated. Attentiveness to each other fosters a sense of value and connection. Focus on the positive aspects of your relationship, carve out time for one another, and, most importantly, truly notice each other.
Sexual desire is ignited and intensified by how you look, smell, and feel in each other’s presence. These seemingly small details can easily get overlooked in daily life, so it’s vital to pay attention to them. Acknowledging these elements can make a significant difference.

Katrin Hinrichs, born in Hamburg, holds a degree in business administration with a minor in psychology. She is a wife and mother of two daughters. After completing her studies, Katrin co-founded a casting agency with her sister, which she managed commercially for 14 years before deciding to pursue a new path. She trained as a clinical sexologist, successfully completing her studies six years later, and subsequently established her own practice in Hamburg-Eppendorf.

In 2020, Katrin launched the successful podcast podcast “Ich frage für einen Freund” in collaboration with the Hamburger Abendblatt newspaper and Hajo Schumacher. In 2024, she published two books:“Ich frage für einen Freund – das Sex ABC für Spaß in den besten Jahren” and “The Age of Sex” At home, she enjoys wearing a silk robe from MyMorgenrock.